3 minute readInternational

After 72 years, sisters separated by war are reconnected by Red Cross

Originally appeared on the Red Cross Northern California Coastal Region blog.

From 1941 to 1944, the Germans subjected Leningrad, the former capital of Russia known today as “Saint Petersburg,” to one of the longest and most destructive chapters of World War II. Historians believe that the Siege of Leningrad — occurring over a nearly 900-day period — resulted in the deaths of up to 1.5 million soldiers and civilians and the evacuation of another 1.4 million people, mostly women and children.

Two little girls — Tamara Haltsonen, who was then 6 years old, and her older sister, Lidia, who was 10 — illustrate the unfathomable human toll of the infamous siege: The girls suffered through the death of their mother, Tatiana, to starvation and/or illness, and the loss of their father, Alexsander, to the “German Labor Camps.” Devastated and suddenly with no one to care for them, the two were placed in separate sections of a local orphanage, before being moved with other evacuees to a monastery in Vilnius, Lithuania.

Tamara is holding a cherished photo of herself, her late husband Oleg, and their daughter, Natalie.
Tamara is holding a cherished photo of herself, her late husband Oleg, and their daughter, Natalie. (Photo: Samar M. Salma)

Both girls were eventually adopted by different families.

Miraculously, Alexsander survived and eventually found his two daughters. However, by then Tamara was in failing health, so he was counseled to leave his daughter with her new family. Tamara’s health would slowly improve, but she would never see her father again, as he and Lidia began a torturous decades-long odyssey that included difficult years in German-occupied Finland and even more hardships behind the Iron Curtain in war-torn Russia.

Young Tamara and her new family, meanwhile, moved to Germany, then to Chicago in the United States. After marrying years later, Tamara Terichow and her husband eventually settled in San Rafael, California.

After a separation that lasted more than 70 years, Tamara (right) and her sister, Lidia, embrace during their reunion in Finland.
After a separation that lasted more than 70 years, Tamara (right) and her sister, Lidia, embrace during their reunion in Finland. (Photo: Anna Haltsonen, Lidia’s granddaughter)

While Alexsander died in 1988, Lidia survived, never losing hope that she would one day be connected with her beloved sister.

Tamara too had known nothing about the fate or whereabouts of her older sister — for more than seven decades. She had tried to cope with the loss in part by never speaking of her adoption with her American family.

But that all changed last fall around Thanksgiving. Seventy-two years after being separated from her sister, Tamara received a phone call she will never forget. It was from the Red Cross Restoring Family Links (RFL) program, and the person on the phone informed Tamara that Lidia was alive and well — and looking for her.

It was a phone call to be truly thankful for. At long last, their long-hoped-for reunion was in the works.

Tamara, now 83, speaks tearfully about the sisters’ separation and their eventual reunion, which took place earlier this year in Finland. “It hurts me that for the longest time I tried to keep my mum in my memory and same thing with my sister,” she says, explaining that even the most hopeful memories fade over time.

But hope, luck, and the services of the Red Cross enabled Tamara to finally reunite with her sister. “It is such good work,” she says about the RFL program operated by the global Red Cross and Red Crescent network.

The United Nations reports that 68.5 million people were displaced worldwide in 2017 due to violence, war, and other forms of persecution. “No one becomes a refugee by choice; but the rest of us can have a choice about how we help,” stated U.N. High Commissioner for Refugees Filippo Grandi on the eve of World Refugee Day 2018.

During their special reunion, the sisters had plenty of catching up to do. (Photo: Natalie Rogen, Tamara’s daughter)
During their special reunion, the sisters had plenty of catching up to do. (Photo: Natalie Rogen, Tamara’s daughter)

Given the scale of the challenge, humanitarian organizations like the Red Cross — through its Restoring Family Links program — are playing a vital role in reconnecting families, as well as supporting those who are displaced.

People in the USA who are separated from family members due to conflicts, disasters, or migration can start a search by:

  • contacting their local Red Cross chapter;
  • calling the American Red Cross’s free national helpline at 844-782-9441; or
  • visiting redcross.org/reconnectingfamilies.

Tamara has one other bit of important advice: “Keep on hoping,” she says, even if doing so becomes difficult to do. “If my sister didn’t talk about it, nothing would have happened,” Tamara says.

_____

About the author: Samar M. Salma is a volunteer writer for the American Red Cross. She currently resides in Monterey.

About the Restoring Family Links program: Through RFL, the American Red Cross, the International Committee of the Red Cross, and Red Cross and Red Crescent societies around the globe work together to locate people and put them back into contact with their relatives. This work includes looking for family members separated by conflict, disaster, or migration.

About the American Red Cross: The American Red Cross shelters, feeds and provides emotional support to victims of disasters; supplies about 40 percent of the nation’s blood; teaches skills that save lives; provides international humanitarian aid; and supports military members and their families. The Red Cross is a not-for-profit organization that depends on volunteers and the generosity of the American public to perform its mission. For more information, please visit redcross.org or cruzrojaamericana.org, or visit us on Twitter at @RedCross.

join the conversation.

We encourage you to comment on this blog. All viewpoints are welcome, but please be constructive. We reserve the right to make editorial decisions regarding submitted comments, including but not limited to removal of comments. The comments are moderated, so you may have to be a tiny bit patient in waiting to see them. We will review and post them as promptly as possible during regular business hours (Monday through Friday, 9:00 – 5:00). Please read our full comment policy.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

  1. Hi Samar:-
    Thank you for your inspiring story about Tamara and Lidia.
    Happy Holidays,
    Frederic Beil

  2. Thanks to Redcros for this marvellous work for humanity. Its awesome.